He's everything on my list, BUT....

Today I was having a nice conversation with one of my best friends about none other than dating and boys. As we were talking, I found a meme that says "Bae has everything on my list, except being a Christian" - along with a picture of a cute baby making a funny face.

I was having a similar conversation earlier with my bestie from work, we decided if there was any a time to play the "Jesus card" as a Christian, it's when it comes to dating. As we talked about boys, I had a few things come to mind that I'd like to share with all my single ladies (all my single ladies...)!

1- Jesus looks at you and loves you. He doesn't try to change you in any way, He tells you to come as you are. Your man of God should be no different. There should be no, I'd love to date you, BUT...! Once you hear that, move on. He's not the one for you.

2- Jesus pursues you, and is patient. These are two super important qualities in my opinion. Having a man that pursues you daily, monthly, weekly, and in creative ways: cards, flowers, food (if you're like me, you love a man who can cook), sharing scripture to encourage you, coffee dates - you get my point. He makes it known to you and to others that you are different, you are special. Through all of this, he is patient. Displaying patience during a relationship is crucial. These things take time. Relationships aren't supposed to be rushed.

3- Jesus desires you. That means he's not merely "settling" for you. He CHOOSES you instead of anyone else. He DESIRES a relationship with you. If your man doesn't show this in any way (texts, calls, hangouts) then he's got to go. You are an absolute GEM, and you're not second best. You are not something to settle for, you are the one worth settling down for!

4- Jesus sees your heart. This is probably my favorite one of all. He pays attention to you. He takes notice of how you are with friends, family, co-workers and at church. Your heart to him, is what makes you the most attractive of all. It doesn't matter whether you're in a dress or sweats, make up or no make up, your heart is what outshines the rest, and that light is what makes you so attractive.

So yes friends, I will play the "Jesus card" when it comes to dating. Dating to me is not a game. It is a journey. On my journey, I'm dating with the intent of marriage. Call me old school, call me silly, call me crazy, but I know that there is a man that God perfectly crafted just for me. That my friends, is something worth waiting for.

The journey might be long, but I'm staying strong.
xoxo Andee

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  1. UnknownApril 23, 2015 at 3:19 PM

    My favorite: "... if there was any a time to play the "Jesus card" as a Christian, it's when it comes to dating."

    Love this post, Andee! So much truth--as a Christian woman, it is our responsibility to be upfront about our faith because with that comes expectations in a relationship. Someone that isn't walking in the same direction (towards Christ) will only be set up for disappointment. We will feel the pressure to compromise and they will feel the pressure of filling shoes they cannot possibly fill.

    To be upfront and to play that card from the beginning means protecting yourself AND the guy from confusion and pain. God does not lay out commandments like this simply to take away the "fun"... it's to protect us from ourselves.

    Fantastic post, love! I appreciate the comparisons to Jesus--although the man we look for will not BE Jesus, he should certainly bring us closer to Him and reflect Him in his life and daily walk. A spouse will never be Savior, but he can bring us closer to our Savior! Can't wait until your next post! :)

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  2. elisamarie52April 24, 2015 at 4:49 AM

    Andee, I have so much love for you and this post. Ladies, play the Jesus card. If he is someone God intends to walk beside you in life, he will accept your beliefs by either being a believer or becoming one. Stay positive. God was patient with you, be patient with God. The guy will come. Until then, enjoy the alone time you get with our amazing Savior!

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